Is Your Home Invaded ?

This really got me thinking. Is your home invaded? Are you your child’s role model?

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When the ancient Chinese decided to live in peace, they made the great wall of China, They thought no one can climb it due to its height.

During the first 100 years of its existence, the Chinese were invaded thrice. …

And everytime, the hordes of enemy infantry had no need of penetrating or climbing over the wall… because each time they bribed the guards and came through the doors.

The Chinese built the wall but forgot the character-building of the wall-guards

Thus the building of human character comes BEFORE building of anything else…..

Thats what our children need today.

Like one of the Orientalists said:

If you want to destroy the civilization of a nation there are 3 ways:

1. Destroy family structure

2.Destroy education

3. Lower their role models and references

1. In order to destroy the family; undermine the role of Mother, so that she feels ashamed of being a housewife.

2. To destroy education: you should give no importance to Teacher, and lower his place in society so as that the students despise him

3.To lower the role models: you should undermine the Scholars, doubt them untill no one listens to them or follows them.

For when a conscious mother disappears, a dedicated teacher disappears and there’s a downfall of role models, WHO will teach the youngsters VALUES?…

Have a thought! Is your home also invaded?

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What I Need To Know 2

Hello friends,  good to be here.  Am sorry for the long silence. 

Yes, what I need to know about sex. Hmmm, before now I used to see sex as something dirty, a no go area to talk about. You hear words like can we talk dirty or let’s  take the dirty to the bedroom.  Thank God for his word that gave me the right perceptive and corrected my thought pattern. Have you ever come across this word from the scriptures? ‘ Drink waters out of thine own cistern and running waters out of thine own well ‘ Proverbs 5 vs 15 KJV  ‘ Drink waters out of your own cistern ( of  a pure marriage relationship)  and fresh running waters out of your own well ‘ Amplified version

 That was an eye opener for me. When the use of a thing is not known, the abuse is inevitable. The rightful context of sex is in the marriage relationship that is between a man and a woman. It is meant for Procreation and Pleasure. Malachi 2 vs 15 ‘And did not God make ( you and your wife) one ( flesh)? Did not One make you and preserve your spirit alive? And why ( did God make you two) one? Because He sought godly offspring ( from your union). Therefore take heed to yourselves and let no one deal treacherously and be faithless to the wife of your youth. Amplified version.

  • God is interested in the marriage relationship because He sought godly seeds. 

  • Sex in its rightful context is not a shameful thing or ought only to be enjoyed in the dark. You should not be ashamed of your nakedness in the presence of your spouse. Take time to explore each other. Yes, explore.  It is indeed a beautiful thing. Touching so important..  ” Let her be as a loving hind and pleasant roe, let her breast satisfy thee at all times, and thou ravisht always with her love ‘. Proverbs 5 vs 19. KJV ‘ Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant doe ( tender, gentle, attractive) – let her bosom satisfy you at all times, and always be transported with delight in her love ‘. Amplified version.

  • It is a give and take. There is no room for selfishness. It is not to show ego or prowess. It is not to demean the other. Sexual activity must bring pleasure to both couple.

  • Sexual intercourse should be mutually given to each other in love and appreciation. Sex in marriage is Fellowship, it is communion and it is love making. It is more than the act itself.

There are so many misconceptions about sex even with married folks.  It is not a power tool to punish your spouse with.  Some husbands deny their wives just to punish them and some wives deny their husbands until the man release money.  It is not to be traded with. No room for trade by barter. Never use the world (pornography, Media e.t.c ) as a standard for your sex life.  They are fake.  They are not real.  They never created it whatever they put up are lies from the pit of hell. ‘Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools, And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things. Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves’
Romans 1:22‭-‬24 KJV
http://bible.com/1/rom.1.22-24.KJV

God wants you to have the maximum enjoyment in your marriage. He is interested in your sex life.  Why don’t you allow Him do the needful.  Put away pride and ego and you will see that the Lord is good.  Yes there there are times you don’t feel like it because of hormonal changes due to child birth,  pregnancy, stress.. in  women, communicate with your spouse. Husband, please understand that you need to put your wife in the mood, foreplay is very important.  This is not 2minutes noodles … Talk, ask questions.. press the right buttons and take her to that heavenly realm…. You know what I mean. Communication is key..

I love you. Thanks for reading. I want to hear from you too.  Your feedback is important to me. God bless your home . Temitope Sandra Sunday

What I Need To know

What I need to know about Sex. ( Sexual Intercourse)

  • Sex is ordained by God

  • God is the Originator of sex

  • Sex is a tool God put in place for the married couple for pleasure and procreation.

  • Sex is not originated by Nollywood or Hollywood.

  • Sex is not dirty.  It was created by a Holy God.

  • Sex is beautiful when use in its rightful context.

  • Sex is not a tool to punish or to do wickedness.

Someone may ask, what then is the rightful context of sex? How come sex is one of the many ways wickedness are perpetuated?

When the use of a thing is not known, the abuse is inevitable.  The rightful context of  Sex is  in marriage relationship.           Malachi 2 vs 15 ” Has not the Lord made them one?  In flesh and Spirit they are his.  And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring.  So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your Youth “

I will be right back. Do leave a feedback

 

 

Help !!! Can this MARRIAGE work ? 3

Yes , it can and it will surely work if we adhere to the manufacture’s manual.

Dear friend, welcome back. We are looking at how to have a good marriage by the manufacturer’s way. The manufacturer or author of marriage is God. Doing it his way entails using his manual. We have being able to dissect Colossians 3 vs 18 as it relates to the wife. Let’s move forward. It is going to be a long ride but I bet you will enjoy it all the way.

Colossians 3 : 19 ” Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them” . KJV

Husbands, love your wives [be affectionate and sympathetic with them] and do not be harsh or bitter or resentful toward them.
Colossians 3:19 AMPl

The commands here for the husband are to love and not bitter.   

The husband is to love the wife that is to  Eros, Phileo, Storge and Agape his wife. These are the four kinds of love.  

  • Husbands, Eros your wives – Be romantically involve with your wives. Eros is a sexual or a passionate love.Eros is an exulted and beautifully idealistic love, usually between a man and woman. C.S. Lewis wrote , Eros is a state of the heart and while it is intimately related to sex, sex can exist, and often does exist, without Eros enlivening it. It leads to children, family, joy and laughter. It is good and right, but it is usually not enough to sustain a relationship long term. There should be a physical and  sentual love between you and your wife.
  • Husbands, Phileo your wives – Be emotionally attached to your wives.  Phileo is a feeling of affection. It is a frendly love. It’s about the friendship and fondness you feel towards people. There should be a fondness between the husband and the wife. Befriend your spouse. Enjoy your spouse company.
  • Husbands, Storge your wives – Be loyal to your wives. Storge is love between family that is family loyalty. It is a duty you owe your family.
  • Husbands, Agape your wives – Be sacrificial to your wives. Agape is a God kind of love. It is unconditional, it is sacrificial. It is not based on what is done or what is not done.  It is the kind of love we are commanded to have for one another. It is based on obedience. 

Husband, you obey God by loving your wife. When you Agape your wife, you will be sensitive and sympathetic to her plight just as God was sympathetic to our plight and gave us his son. Agape is the glue that holds the other loves fast and gives us the wisdom and patience when the other loves fail.

The concluding verse says ” do not be bitter against them”.

 To be bitter  – very fierce and unpleasant. Extremely cold and unhappy. Cruel and unkind.  A feeling of anger and unhappiness because of a feeling of unfair treatment.

It can be paraphrase thus ‘ Husbands, do not be fierce , unhappy , extremely cold, cruel and unkind with or towards your wife.

What can make a man to be bitter towards his wife?

  • When the man thinks the wife does not respect him .
  • He feels or think the wife does not appreciate him.
  • He feels or think the wife sees him less a man because of what he has or does not have.

The underlying factor here is the thinking or feelings. Most times our feelings may not be correct. Ask questions don’t just assume things. When the right questions are asked, our judgements will be right.

You  as a wife,may be in a situation where you respect your husband, appreciate him yet he is harsh and bitter towards you. Hmmm , what then could be the reason?

It could be childhood experience or hereditary.  Whatever maybe the cause of the bitterness there is help for such a man. 

Acknowledge your need of help. Ask God for help and allow the Holy Spirit to lead and direct you. It is only Obedience to God that can kill bitterness…….

Marriage is meant to be enjoyed  not to be endured. Please make up your mind to  enjoy yours .

I hope you enjoy the ride… Please comments are welcomed

 

 

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY

Today Mothers are celebrated.  It is indeed an honour to be a Mother. 

Mothers are unique.  Mothers are the best gift from God to man.  This is for you every mother out there.  You are the best.

My Mother

My Mother my life giver                                My Mother my first love                              My Mother my nurturer                             My Mother my keeper                                 My Mother my sustainer

My Mother my first teacher                          My Mother my guide                                      My Mother my compassionate lover        My Mother an embodiment of Sacrifice  My Mother my pride

My Mother my leader                                 My Mother my helper                                 My Mother my defender                             My Mother my friend                                 My Mother the god that I see.

Do drop some lines for your mum.  What can you say about your mum. What words can you use to describe her?   I am waiting to read yours.  

Help!!! Can this MARRIAGE work? 2

God is the author, originator and the manufacturer of Marriage. Lets get back to the  manual

‘And the Lord said, it is not good that the man should be alone: I will make him an HELP Meet for him’ Gen 2 vs 18 KJV.

Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.
Genesis 2:18 AMPC

Dictionary.com defines Help as to give or provide what is necessary to accomplish a task or satisfy a need; contribute strength or means to; render assistance to; cooperate effectively with; aid; assist. Synonyms: aid, assist, avail, balm, benefit, comfort, cooperation,  nourishment. The word meet means to fulfill or satisfy. To arrange or come into the presence of.

  • From the definition, as wife i am to render assistance to fulfill or satisfy my husband.
  • To aid him fulfill
  • To assist, cooperate , provide what is necessary to accomplish a task or satisfy a need.

Lets look at the words in Amplified version. Suitable means it means appropriate, acceptable or right for someone or something. Adapted means to fit, to undergo modification so as to fit new circumstances, to make suitable. Complementary means to completes or enhances the qualities of something else.  Wao !!! This our heavenly father loves us so much that he so empower us ( woman).  You can be all these by the help of the Holy Spirit.  You just need to acknowledge you cannot do these all alone ask for the help of The Holy Spirit  and he will help you.  Jesus said
‘Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.’ Revelation 3 vs 20 KJV. With him in your Ship, you can not have a shipwreck .

Are you willing to ask him come into your life, allow him take the lead as you follow ? If yes say a Prayer  of repentance and forgiveness of sin.  Accept his sacrifice for your sin. Acknowledge your need of Him. Open the door of your heart to Him and ask Him to come and dine you. ‘That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believe unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation’.
Romans 10:9‭-‬10 KJV

How can i fit in into this calling?      Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
Colossians 3:18 KJV
Wives, be subject to your husbands [subordinate and adapt yourselves to them], as is right and fitting and your proper duty in the Lord. Colossians 3:18 AMPC      SUBMIT means to accept the control, authority or greater strength of somebody. To yield and agree to.  FIT means to make suitable, healthy and attractive. SUBJECT means to be under the authority or dependent on. SUBORDINATE means one who has a position with less authority than someone else. ADAPT means to change your behavior in order to deal more successfully with a new situation. My paraphrase edition for KJV ‘ Wives, accept the authority of your own husband as it is healthy or make suitable in the Lord’.  Amplified ‘ Wives, be under the authority of your husbands, dependent on them. ( have a position with less authority than your husband and change your behavior in order to deal successfully with them) as it is right and suitable and your proper duty in the Lord. My dear wife ,to be successful you must note the following from the above verse.

  • You must understand that you are a subordinate and he is superior (head). In an organization, there is a boss and assistance before other workers. Simply put in the family, He is the boss, you are his assistance, then the children. You have a lesser authority in the family. You are to make suggestions not insisting he must do what you say.
  • You are under his control. He has the final say. You can only achieve this when you do not allow your carreer, certificate or your position to be- cloud you. Everything you are or own come under. You are to put them under you. When all these are under you, you can easily submit yourself to him. But when you still see your carreer first, your position first,and your certificates / achievements first, accepting his authority will be hard.
  • You must be able to change your behaviour in order to be more successful in this new position. Before now especially when you have being independent for a while. You live on your own, you go out whenever and wherever you want, you are in control of your act. You don’t take permission from anyone. You may decide not to do any chore. You were in charge. But now things have change. What change? *Someone is in charge. Your husband is in charge. *You must be accountable. To who? Your husband. You can’t leave the house anyhow as you please. He must know your movement. * You must take responsibility. What tesponsibility? His look and your look. It is your duty to make sure he eats well and healthy. You have to take care of him Spirit, Soul and Body. Build yourself up in a way he can talk to you about anything. Know the little you can about his profession. Be interested in his family. You must also take care of yourself. Your looks will make him to desire or not to desire you. Have a healthy eating habit. Eat well and feel good about your self.  Be his mistress. Seduce him when necessary. Initiate sex. * Learn the act of mothering. Be a wife to him at the same time his mother especially when the mother is late. Don’t let your mothering overshadow your wifely duty. You are his wife first but when ocassion come for you to mother him, do it in a way he won’t feel disgusted.

We are through dissecting vs 18a. Lets move forward. Vs 18b ..’ as is right and fitting and your proper duty in the Lord’. As it is healthy or make suitable and your proper duty in the Lord.   What can make my submitting to my husband not fitting in the Lord?

  • When I put my husband first before the Lord. The Lord is my first love. Isaiah 54 : 5. For thy Maker is thine husband; the Lord of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.
    My husband comes after him. The Lord must be acknowledge first in all and everything I do. Let me quickly say this, This portion of the Word of God is addressed or written to the Colossians church. It is address to the congregation of christians. A believer will not play on your submition to him. He wont take the place of God in your life.
  • When it is against the will and purpose of God. When it is antagonistic to the word of God.

When I see and respect my husband as the church respect and honour Christ, there will be peace and harmony in the home. In return, he will love me and respect me. He won’t take me for granted because we both are in God and we both want to please God.  God called me to submit to him.

Am quite sure you enjoy the ride and have learnt one or two things. Why not put into practise and see God at work in your life and marriage.  You might be thinking is it only about wife.  Not at all the husband has his own part to fuifill. Verse 19 addresses that……

stay tuned… Shall be back

Additional readings.                        Ephesians 5 : 22 – 33  .                           1Peter 3 : 1 – 7

Help!!! Can this MARRIAGE work ?

Yes, dear. There is help for you. It can work and will work if you are ready to do work the work .😊😊😊

Today, eight (8) day of March makes me Nine (9)years in marriage. Wao!!! It has being God all the way. Little wonder the bible says ‘…And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.’ Ecclesiastes 4:12b.KJV ‘…A three stranded rope isn’t easily snapped.’ Message version. ‘..A rope made up of three cords is hard to break.’GNT

Checking through the dictionary, I found the following definition of a cord. A cord as a strong thick string or thin rope. A string or thin rope made of several strands braided, twisted, or woven together. A slender length of flexible material usually made of twisted strands or fibers and used to bind, tie, connect, or support.

The above definition makes me understand that portion of the bible very well. Three cords wooven together to bind, connect or tie  can withstand the test of time unlike just a cord or two cords. God cannot be underestimated in your marriage. You need him to make your marriage work. He is the author, the originator and the manufacturer of marriage relationship.

Situations and Challenges will definitely come. Jesus never promised us a life void of challenges but peace through it all and victory. We have being tempted on everyside but our Lord by our side, we came out victorious.

My dear friend, God is ever faithful. When a product is used by the manufacturers instruction (manual), you get the best out of it.  He has given is his word which is the manual to make marriage work. Anything outside His word will fail. Get the word of God my dear friend and see God work in your favour. Your marriage is meant to shield and  protect you. It is not to attack, assault or expose you to harm. It is meant to be enjoyed and not to be endured. Marriage is meant to be an haven of safety, an haven of Peace not Commotion. You both have a part to play to make this happen.

I will be right back stay tuned…….

Good to be back

It has being a long time i last log in. A very happy new year should be in place.

Hope you guys are good. Well its being good with me too. Increase on every side to God be the glory.

We are back and better. Stay tune for relationship advise ans quotes, stories with positive impact all your life and above all making Marriage work God’s way.

Kisses from my humble self Sandra Temitope Sunday.

what manner of love

What do you mean? Johnson cried out…. Let me own up to the crime. I committed the murder..let me pay for my crime. Am sorry I put you through the pain… Pls forgive me.. Johnson said sobbing.. I am happy the truth is out and glad u have met Christ, Mike said but
i have already been convicted for the crime you Johnson committed. Mike amidst sobbing, sentence to death by hanging..Mike continued…. Johnson, God knows why I was the one accused wrongly n sentenced to death… Please Johnson, don’t forget this token of my love for you. Don’t let my death be in vain……..  

We are the ones that sin but Jesus was the one that bore the penalty of our sin. He was crucified for our sin.  He called upon the Father but the Father could not look upon him because he was sin personified. He gave his life to bridge the gap between you and the Father.  His death and resurrection brought us closer to the father. It gave us the grace to say Abba Father. It imputed upon us righteousness. It gave us victory over sin. It gave us everything we need for life and godliness.

 Hmmm, what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us.. In that while we are yet sinners Christ died for us.. To as many that believe that Christ died for them, He gave them the power to become the sons of God…

Dear friend, do not allow the death of Jesus Christ be in vain over your life.  He came just for you.  Accept his sacrifice for your sin by accepting Him as your Lord and Saviour. He stands at the door of your heart knocking. Open the door of your heart and He will come in and sup with you.

May that Power, the Resurrection power that rose Jesus from the grave hit you and yours in every area of your life – your marriage, your career, your finances and your business in the name of Jesus and give you Life. Amen.

God kind of life is the best ever. What are you waiting for friends. God bless you.

       HAPPY EASTER